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Weddings & Marriage Blessings

Our Wedding Information Pack can be downloaded here.

A wedding ceremony marks the start of a marriage, and all weddings, wherever they take place, are significant. They all mark a public witness to the love that two people have for each other. However, a Church wedding makes certain themes clearer:

  • The fact that the promises are made within a supportive community provides a setting in which the marriage can be supported and sustained.
  • The Church building witnesses to the significance of love as the very reason for existence. The concept of covenant between the couple reflects the relationship between God and the world.
  • The idea of the ‘sacrament of marriage’ reflects the miracle of what God is doing in human lives as you both make the promises together in the Church.

Every year, hundreds of thousands of people get married in England. More than half tie the knot during a religious ceremony which, for 200,000, about a third of the total, involves the Church of England. It is the most important day in their lives. Whether you are a regular churchgoer or not, getting married in church allows you to make solemn promises to the one you love, not only in front of your family and friends but also in the sight of God and with God’s blessing.

Marriage, the Bible tells us, is a gift register signing shof God in creation and a means of his grace, a holy mystery in which man and woman become one flesh. It is God’s purpose that, as husband and wife give themselves to each other in love throughout their lives, they are united in that love, just as Christ is united in love with his Church.

Our current Table of Fees can be found here.

Please note, however, that there are legal constraints on who can marry at St Mary’s (or in any other CofE Parish Church).

  • at least one of the couple must reside in the parish of East Barnet
  • OR if neither reside in the parish then at least one of the couple must be on the Church Electoral Roll  [NB: this is different from the Register of Electors.  To qualify for membership of the Church Electoral Roll you must attend worship regularly (once a month) for a minimum period of six months]
  • OR when there is a proven link between the couple and the parish

Please Note: when one or both of those being married reside in another parish other than East Barnet, they must arrange for their banns to be read in their parish of residence before the marriage can legally take place.

Service of Blessing after a Civil Marriage

The Service of Blessing after a Civil Marriage may be used in a variety of ways. Some couples choose to be married at a Registry Office, and then come to Church later the same day, or on the next day. Others may have their marriage overseas, and then return for a church blessing a few weeks later. In some cases the service is used to mark anniversaries, or as a way of renewing marriage vows. Because there are no civil legalities to be observed in the Blessing Service, there is a greater degree of flexibility, so services can be tailored to couple’s particular needs and preferences.

Bookings for Services can be made at the Parish Office on Saturday mornings between 11am and 11.30am

Further details (including current fees) are available by phone on 020 8361 7524 or by emailing the Parish Office.